{"id":3231,"date":"2019-01-04T07:45:04","date_gmt":"2019-01-04T07:45:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/?p=3231"},"modified":"2019-01-04T08:02:16","modified_gmt":"2019-01-04T08:02:16","slug":"my-new-years-resolution","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/my-new-years-resolution\/","title":{"rendered":"My new year’s resolution"},"content":{"rendered":"

Happy New Year!\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0I hope this message finds you well and rested from the holidays. \u00a0And I\u2019d love to hear from you –\u00a0what are your wishes and hopes for the year ahead?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’ve been thinking a lot about my\u00a0intentions for the year ahead<\/strong>. \u00a0Some are seemingly trivial domestic goals, like organizing my kitchen cabinets. \u00a0:p \u00a0Some are deeper, more complex yearnings.\u00a0\u00a0How can I nurture my children\u2019s sense of active involvement in the world, without compromising their sense of safety?<\/strong><\/p>\n

But more than anything,\u00a0one goal eclipses all others this year<\/strong>. \u00a0As is so often the case, this one comes from listening to my children.<\/p>\n

Because while I am ruminating, forming goals and the like, my children have one question for me.<\/p>\n

\u201cMAMA! \u00a0Be with us!!! \u00a0PLAY with us!!!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

They have a point.\u00a0 More times than I’d like, I find myself thinking, when was the last time I really sat down with them and was 100% present, 100% there.<\/p>\n

The thing is, it\u2019s not easy!\u00a0 When I’m not as with them as I’d like to be, it\u2019s not like I\u2019m just sitting around doing nothing. \u00a0Most of the time, while I am ruminating, I am also\u00a0doing the dishes. \u00a0Or the laundry. \u00a0Or endless other chores<\/strong>\u00a0that need doing.<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, there are my children, playing with legos, or wooden trains. \u00a0Dressed up as koalas. \u00a0Or hedgehogs. \u00a0Making forest feasts. \u00a0Galavanting through imaginary worlds.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re so wholehearted, in everything they do.<\/p>\n

So endlessly present.<\/p>\n

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This is, to me, one of the most beautiful things about childhood. \u00a0The way our children stay present.\u00a0 And the way they so persistently invite us to join them in that space.<\/p>\n

So, lately, I\u2019ve been trying to\u00a0develop more self awareness around this.<\/strong>\u00a0 I want to notice\u00a0when I am really present with them, and when I am preoccupied.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0Thinking, dreaming, or yes, doing the dishes.<\/p>\n

So my resolution for this year is this:<\/p>\n

I want to make sure that I really am spending quality time with each of my children, every day. \u00a0Special time. \u00a0The kind of time where you\u2019re not just getting things done, but are actually, lovingly engaged with one another, doing something you both enjoy.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe as simple as cuddling on the couch, while your six year old croons hedgehog noises, and you remember that even though he\u2019s a big boy now,\u00a0he\u2019ll always be your baby.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My wish for this year is\u00a0to\u00a0remember, every day, the sacredness of the time we spend together. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

And maybe that\u2019s it – the crux of the matter<\/strong>\u00a0in nurturing our children\u2019s sense of safety in an uncertain world.<\/p>\n

Maybe that\u2019s where we find safety, after all.\u00a0 Simply in this present moment.\u00a0 in our moments together.<\/p>\n

The way we listen to them.<\/p>\n

The way we play.<\/p>\n

And also those moments when they join us at the sink, sailing lego boats in the rinse water while we do the dishes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Happy New Year!\u00a0\u00a0I hope this message finds you well and rested from the holidays. \u00a0And I\u2019d love to hear from you –\u00a0what are your wishes and hopes for the year ahead? I’ve been thinking a lot about my\u00a0intentions for the year ahead. \u00a0Some are seemingly trivial domestic goals, like organizing my kitchen cabinets. \u00a0:p \u00a0Some […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3234,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_s2mail":"yes"},"categories":[6,3,4,1,5],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3231"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3231"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3231\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3234"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3231"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3231"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noevenable.com\/singingcircles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3231"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}